I used to think that if a relationship has been talked for too long, there are only two endings:
The first is to break up.
The second is marriage.
But Wu Junru gave the third answer, always in love.
She and director Peter Chan have lived together for 20 years and have a daughter, but they have been sleeping in separate rooms, implementing the AA system and not getting married.
Many people wonder, what on earth does she want?
Maybe she doesn't want anything, just follow her heart's wish and make her life the way she wants it to be.
Even if what she wants is not in line with public opinion.
And fearless.
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Wu Junru is the second generation of Xing.
My father is a program host and actor, known as Uncle Dong.
Under the influence of her father, Wu Junru developed a yearning for show business at a young age, and dreamed of becoming a Hong Kong sister at the age of five.
However, fate did not favor her.
Although she is a star second generation, but her appearance is not outstanding, mixed show business, but also started from a walk-on.
In the fourth year of her career, she worked with Zhou Xingchi to shoot the humorous comedy "fighting anger".
From then on, her comedy talent began to show, and she was invited to star in the film series "Overlord Flower".
Unexpectedly, with this film, she was nominated for Best New Actor at the Academy Award.
This gave her the confidence to continue her career in comedy movies.
In the same year, she co-starred with Andy Lau, Chen Yulian, Qiu Shuzhen and others in the movie Best Bad Friends.
In the film, she does not hesitate to destroy her image, pick her nose and pretend to be ugly.
Despite her ease in acting, she was unwilling to do so and cried aggrieved.
However, she also knew that there were many beautiful actresses in Hong Kong at that time, and she did not have an advantage.
She had no choice but to switch to another track if she wanted to get out of the lap.
So, as soon as she was ruthless, she risked everything.
As a result, the effect is surprisingly good.
She also opened up a new world for herself.
Since then, she has gone forever on the way to acting ugly, and has even been called "female version of Zhou Xingchi".
It's just that there's a price for being ugly.
At that time, Wu Junru was in love with du Dewei.
Because she has been playing the clown, du Dewei is not willing to admit her girlfriend's identity at all.
In the eighth year of their relationship, he cheated on him.
This relationship ends here.
However, this did not frighten Wu Junru, she still painstakingly shaped every character.
She was convinced that the real predestined person would not like or reject herself because she was beautiful or ugly.
However, she also knows that she can not stay in the comfort zone all the time, it is time to meet new challenges.
As a result, she began to lose weight, change her image, make literary films and make records.
Her career and love have ushered in a turning point.
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In 1996, she played four roles in the movie Eve on all sides.
From prostitutes to housewives.
In 1998, she played the role of thirteen younger sisters in "Hong Xing's Thirteen Sister".
With this role, she won the Best Actress Award and the Golden Bauhinia Award for Best Actress.
In 2003, she played A Jin, a prostitute in the movie Golden Rooster.
She gave an emotional interpretation of the life of a prostitute from 14 to 45 years old.
With this role, she won the Golden Horse Award for Best Actress.
Finally, Wu Junru is no longer a funny woman who only knows how to act ugly, but a real performer.
In those years of rising career, she also ushered in a new love.
That man, named Chen Kexin, is a director.
Their acquaintance originated from Zeng Zhiwei.
On that day, she asked Zeng Zhiwei to talk about things, and it happened that Peter Chan also had an appointment with Zeng Zhiwei.
That's how the two met.
During this period, Wu Junru's mobile phone happened to be dead, and Chen Kexin happened to use the same mobile phone as her, so he lent her a spare battery.
If you borrow something, you will have to pay it back, so you will have more contacts.
Later, the two often met at foreign film exhibitions and hotels, and naturally had dinner together.
One comes and two goes, and feelings grow in secret.
In the second year of acquaintance, the two became lovers.
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When you fall in love, there are always twists and turns.
The same is true of Wu Junru and Chen Kexin.
When they first met, Chen Kexin wanted to go to the United States to make movies, and the two had been separated for a while.
She felt that he didn't understand her.
After Chen Kexin finished shooting the film, he came back to her, and the two got back together.
Since then, it has been 24 years since then.
Have children, don't get married, sleep in separate rooms, go Dutch.
In the eyes of others, unimaginable things have become common among them.
There is also speculation in the outside world, why don't the two get married?
Some people think that Chen Kexin is unwilling to marry, but they do not realize that Wu Junru is unwilling to marry.
In other words, it's not that she doesn't want to marry, but that she doesn't feel the need to tie each other with that piece of paper.
If you still have feelings, just stay together; if you have no feelings, you will be magnanimous and separate.
That piece of paper protects only property, not love.
Love, must own management, only then can last the freshness.
After all, although some people have obtained a license, they will still choose to separate, and although they have not obtained a license, they have been in love for many years.
Of course, she also admitted that there must be ups and downs, beauty and unbearability in the relationship.
But those are not important, as long as you have a loving heart, you can grow old hand in hand.
Although, when people call her Mrs. Chen, she will correct: I am not Mrs. Chen, I am Miss Wu.
But she has long believed that Chen Kexin is the one who can accompany her for the rest of her life.
If you look at Wu Junru's experience, you will find that she dares to find another way.
If you don't look beautiful enough when acting, try acting ugly.
When you are in love, if you don't want to be bound by marriage, just fall in love and not get married.
This bravery actually stems from her confidence in herself.
She firmly believes that as long as the performance goes on, there will always be a chance to win an award; she is also convinced that as long as you work hard, love will last.
In fact, most of the time, it's not that we can't do it, but that we don't believe we can do it.
May we all believe in ourselves more and explore life bravely.