In this day and age, it is rare for adults to keep a diary in a notebook, and Zhang Xin (a pseudonym) is such a strange man.
Zhang Xin comes from a scholarly family, and his parents are both university teachers, and because of their good family circumstances, they all speak and do things politely, their living environment is relatively simple, and the whole family is polite and polite.
Therefore, Zhang Xin has formed a good habit of keeping a diary since he was a child.
Recently, this month, Zhang Xin's diary is full of dislike for his brother-in-law's family.
It's funny, this kind of behavior still looks a little childish, but it also shows that Zhang Xin is not good at conflicts with people, and he doesn't want to say nasty things to others directly.
His brother-in-law, 43 years old, was broken because he was hit by an electric car.
But unfortunately, my brother-in-law was at fault, not to mention trying to blackmail people when he ran the traffic lights indiscriminately. At last, he was found out the whole story, and he didn't get a penny of compensation, and he lost money to others.
As a result, his brother-in-law fell in love with Zhang Xin and insisted on coming to them to recover from his injuries, because Zhang Xin's family was close to the hospital, convenient to see a doctor, and the medical conditions in his hometown town were not good, so his brother-in-law came.
It was his son who sent him the day he came.
His son opened the car door, left him in front of Zhang Xin's house and drove away!
Zhang Xin lived to be 48 years old, and he really had never seen such a scene. He felt that his wife's family had gone too far. But after all, he was a civilized man, and it was impossible to get rid of his brother-in-law, so he had no choice but to help people home with his wife.
In this way, my brother-in-law stayed at Zhang Xin's house.
After staying, Zhang Xin really did not have a good life, every day to endure mental attacks from his brother-in-law.
For the first time, it was his brother-in-law who praised his son-I don't know how he boasted it! After he stayed in Zhang Xin's house, his son was disconnected. Should such a son be praised for filial piety?
For the second time, my brother-in-law has been talking about the sons of two people, saying that his son is better than Zhang Xin's son.
Compared with these two things, Zhang Xin didn't find it strange for his brother-in-law to brag about how capable his family was. It would be fine if it was only a few times, but his brother-in-law had to talk about these things every now and then, which bored Zhang Xin.
This brother-in-law, named Yang Zhenlei (a pseudonym), has been spoiled by his parents since childhood and is extremely thick-skinned.
I remember that when Zhang Xin and his wife first got married, his brother-in-law had an affair.
At that time, my brother-in-law was still screwing, and he was often absent from work to drink. Somehow, he met a woman in a bar, and the two wanted to get married. They didn't even hold the wedding, forcing their parents to hand over their household registration books and pull their certificates.
But the marriage did not succeed, the parents of the woman came to the door and got into a big fight with the Yang family. Zhang Xin, a stodgy intellectual, how has he ever seen this battle? He flatly refused to help his parents-in-law fight, and was scolded by his brother-in-law for a long time afterwards.
Because of this, his brother-in-law seemed to hate him and often took advantage of him.
After taking advantage of it, my brother-in-law always said that Zhang Xin was not a man and that he was not manly!
Later, Zhang Xin was sent by the company to other provinces to do exploration, he took his wife and children to settle in this city, and his brother-in-law's son is also forced by his father-in-law to matchmake, arranged to come.
Zhang Xin felt that he was benevolent and righteous, so he didn't want to keep in touch with the Yang family.
After so many years in the blink of an eye, I didn't expect that my brother-in-law could brazenly praise his son.
Zhang Xin disdained to argue with people like his brother-in-law, but his negative energy had no place to vent, so he wrote a diary to dredge his emotions and avoid his own mental friction.
Moreover, he is also old, and it is reasonable to use a diary to record what happened during this period of time, lest his brother-in-law later say that his brother-in-law bullied him. This is also a reminder that Zhang Xin hopes his wife will always be on his side.
During the days when Yang Zhenlei was recuperating at Zhang Xin's family, Zhang Xin contacted his brother-in-law's son several times in the hope that he would take his father away as soon as possible.
However, his son never showed up once.
His son's failure to show up, on the one hand, highlights Yang Zhenlei's boasting is ridiculous, on the other hand, completely put pressure on Zhang Xin and his wife, not only to endure Yang Zhenlei's chattering torment, but also to serve him!
Zhang Xin himself was so tortured that he couldn't sleep well. Seeing his wife taking care of his brother-in-law without saying a word, Zhang Xin was too tired to straighten up. Zhang Xin was even more angry and wanted to find his son's company and force him to pick up his father.
At this time, the cowardly side of the wife was exposed, and she had been stopping Zhang Xin.
The wife thought that this would affect her nephew's work and future, so she would rather suffer by herself.
A month later, Yang Zhenlei's fracture was better, and Zhang Xin decided to send him back to his parents-in-law's home.
This month, his son finally came to see twice, but each time he came as if Zhang Xin was supposed to serve his father, but each time he came empty-handed! Zhang Xin was completely desperate about the father and son, and was also disappointed with his wife's behavior.
Finally, he asked his son to accompany him and sent his brother-in-law away.
021. If you don't maintain a small family, it's easy to get married.
Adults need a sense of belonging, family, whether single life, or marriage, it will become our most sense of belonging to the private territory.
Each of us is contributing to our own small family, whether it is to make money or to invest in feelings, the effect is the same.
Therefore, the maintenance of their own small family, is also everyone's subconscious act.
If a family member often harms the interests of a small family and does not subconsciously protect the small family, it shows that this person's mind is not here. She does not regard this place as her own home and has no sense of belonging.
This kind of marriage is more like something to deal with in the eyes of this person, and the relationship with the family is more difficult to cultivate, and it is not easy to empathize with each other's feelings, so it is easier to have problems.
2. Every adult should be responsible for himself.
Admittedly, each of us needs to consider many factors when speaking and doing things, but no matter how much influence we have, we should also muster up the courage to take some responsibilities, otherwise we will be in a more passive position.
For example, the wife in the story, she has always been a passive person.
She was still compromising when her brother made a mess of her family and her husband couldn't bear to drive him out.
Sometimes, some relatives can brazenly do bad things and take advantage of you precisely because you have been making concessions, and your concessions make him think that he can bully you, your partner and your children.
Therefore, the failure to bravely assume responsibility and counter the exploitation of relatives will lead to this embarrassing situation.
Finally, this part of the loss will become that the wife is ashamed of her husband and son, and it will be even worse!
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